.Net style in Vista vs. Vista Aero

I don't understand why the .Net toolsbars in Vista look so spartan compared to the pretty Aero ones.* The toolbars in .Net on XP at least have some gradients.

Also, why can't I make that pretty sort arrow at the top of a column of a ListView?* Appending "(A-Z)" or "(Z-A)" to the column title makes programs seem dated.* I know that I could instead use a picture of arrows pointing up and down, but even that doesn't look right, since the arrow would be beside the column title instead of at the top.


OK, I'm not just complaining.* Is there a way to fix these two issues??